Never Stop Learning; Stay Focused

“LEARN FROM YESTERDAY, LIVE FOR TODAY, HOPE FOR TOMORROW.” - ALBERT EINSTEIN

AS A TEACHER, I KNOW MY STUDENTS WILL SOMETIMES FORGET WHAT I SAY, BUT THEY WILL NEVER FORGET HOW I MAKE THEM FEEL.

“TEACHERS CAN CHANGE LIVES WITH JUST THE RIGHT MIX OF CHALK AND CHALLENGES.” - Joyce Meyer

 

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YOU CAN TALK AND TALK UNTIL YOU TURN BLUE IN THE FACE, BUT IF WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT DOESN’T CHANGE YOU OR SOMEONE AROUND YOU, YOUR TALK IS CHEAP AND INEFFECTIVE, SO THERE’S NOTHING TO LEARN FROM IT. WHEN YOU SPEAK, CONSIDER OTHERS FEELINGS. BE SENSITIVE TO WHAT THEY MAY BE EXPRESSING AND HOW YOU CAN HELP GUIDE THE CONVERSATION TOWARD GOOD SUCCESS. LEARN AND SHARE HOW YOU CAN TURN LEMONS INTO LEMONADE. LIVE EACH DAY AS IF IT’S YOUR LAST DAY ON EARTH AND SHARE WHAT MOTIVATES YOU WITH OTHERS.

FOR WHATSOEVER THINGS WERE WRITTEN AFORETIME WERE WRITTEN FOR LEARNING, THAT WE THROUGH PATIENCE AND COMFORT OF THE SCRIPTURES MIGHT HAVE HOPE. - ROMANS 15:4

REMEMBER, IF YOU CAN’T STEER OR GIVE SOMEONE PROPER GUIDANCE WITH YOUR TEACHING OF LIFE LESSONS OR EXPERIENCES YOU CAN SUGGEST THEY TALK TO A TRUSTED (PROFESSIONAL) CONFIDANT TO HELP SOLVE OR FIGURE OUT WHAT DIRECTION THEY SHOULD TAKE TO GET THE BEST RESULTS FOR THEIR SITUATION OR CIRCUMSTANCE.

WE MUST ALWAYS BE WILLING TO DO THE WORK. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING WE CAN LEARN IF WE KEEP AN OPEN MIND AND STAY TEACHABLE. SELF-GROWTH WILL HELP YOU TO LIVE A FULL LIFE AND LEAD YOU TO MANY SUCCESSES ON YOUR JOURNEY OF LIFE. YESTERDAY IS GONE. TOMORROW  WE CAN LOOK AHEAD TO OUR FUTURE. TODAY IS A GIFT FROM GOD. WHEN YOU HAVE BEEN GIVEN THE GIFT OF LIFE CHERISH IT.

LET’S GET FOCUSED!

Amanda

The Wait

The start of a new year is always filled with promises of re-dedication and re-commitment. These promises are often linked to specific goals that are expected to change our lives for the better: improved fitness, healthier eating, time management, repairing relationships, etc. While committing to something fully after doing the complete opposite for 365 days straight leading up to deciding to make a change is difficult enough, the true challenge comes in the form of the wait.

Whether it’s waiting to see improvements, waiting to save enough money, or waiting to meet the right person, our recently established commitments somehow shift from being about achieving goals and implementing permanent change in our lives to reaching a date on a calendar or seeing a number on a scale decrease. Until any of those things happen, we simply wait and then use time as a measure of success. But what if the waiting has a greater meaning?

Throughout 2017, my main focus was on the concept of restoration: personal, social, relational, and spiritual. 2016, while extremely exciting for me, was also extremely draining and didn’t leave me with the holistic feeling of satisfaction that I had hoped for. So I set a ton of goals for 2017 and went on a journey to look for what I need in order to be fully restored for the first time in…well, forever. However, while I made lots of great strides and reached a ton of goals and milestones, the majority of my year was spent (you guessed it) …waiting. I spent so much time waiting for conference and article submission deadlines, product samples, new employees, etc. that I didn’t realize that I was slowly being rejuvenated and restored while also being transformed.

Now that we’ve started a new year and things are once again moving quickly and new goals and tasks are being added to my to-do list, I find myself both more patient yet less willing to overlook unaccountability and a lack of effort in others, more organized yet less rigid about incorporating fun in to everything I’m doing, and more self-aware yet less personally judgmental…all at the same time.  When I took time this past week to really think about it, I realized I had found the greatest gift in my willingness to wait: balance.

So while I’m slowly making consistent use of that gym membership I’ve had for the last 3 years and am finding myself more comfortable with accepting that some things can just be done tomorrow in order to spend more time with people and in places that matter, my time of waiting actually gave me back what I needed most: Me. And I wouldn’t have it any other way :)

What are you in need of for this year? How much are your goals/resolutions aligned with what you’ve discovered you need to truly make yourself a priority? Let’s talk about it!

Happy 2018!

LaKeitha

SAYING YES

 

Growing up, I recall both my mother and grandmother always reminding me of my strength, intelligence, and power...not just as a woman but as a human being. These affirmations are notions that I carried and reminded myself of throughout my entire life. They were particularly useful during some of my most difficult transitions and life challenges: starting college three states away from home, completing both of my graduate programs, and deciding to become an entrepreneur. In all of those moments, I remembered their words and their urging of me to always put myself in a position to be able to say “Yes” to whatever life had placed in front of me. This confidence in myself made me brave, zealous, and passionate about finding what my purpose was in life and determining the impact that I wanted to make. I consistently feel unstoppable.

 

In life, there will be challenges, heartbreaks, and letdowns. However, what matters most is how you respond to them. Consider your ability to say “Yes” in your daily life, even when it feels difficult or you feel afraid. Being open to “Yes” frees your thoughts and emotions to experience the joys of life in an unimaginable way. The next time you’re faced with a tough decision, uncertainty about your career path, or hesitancy about trying something new, consider your strength and significance to the world around you and just  say “Yes!”

 

Until Next Time,

LP

Cheers to 2017: Who Needs Resolutions When You Can Have Joy All Year Long?

2016 was definitely a year to remember. We held a successful Open House for the practice’s new office space (YAY!), I defended my dissertation and became Dr. Poole (still seems so unreal...whoa!), and I got to witness the incomparable magic that is Beyoncé’...twice! Talk about an action-packed year!

When I think about these sort of things that have happened for (and to) me all year long, I recognize how much of an impact they have had on my perception of what having joy truly means. Before this year, everything I did seemed tied to fulfilling some goal or aspiration that, in the moment, seemed impossible and like a chore. Developing a 100+ page document that kicks-off your career in academia, learning how to be a ruthless, motivated, female business owner when it contradicts everything that you’ve embraced about being an empathic, soft-spoken counselor, and finding time to practice regular self-care by staying true to the travel bug that sets your soul afire was a major balancing act that occupied much of my mental capacity in 2016. When it was all over, even though I was extremely exhausted, I could not have felt more proud of the things I had accomplished and the future opportunities that would result. Nevertheless, I also felt completely depleted: physically, mentally, and interpersonally. I needed to be recharged. I was happy, but I needed to find joy.

So, around August of this year (a little late, I know), I committed to only doing things that I was passionate about and that would somehow always come back around to offer fulfillment for the effort that I had exerted. I committed to this new mantra in my friendships, my work environments, and through practicing good self-care and spiritual renewal. This intentional, mindful approach helped me to put so many things into perspective and allowed me to trust that no matter what circumstances I faced (presenter or future), I am already equipped to overcome them and remain in a place of gratitude and joy. While one might assume this way of thinking would seem natural to a therapist’s mindset, I sometimes forget that in order for me to best serve my clients I, too, have to be mentally and emotionally well and know when to take time for myself and/or ask for help from others. So today and all year long, no matter what happens, I choose joy. I hope you’ll join me.

Happy New Year!

Until Next Time,

LaKeitha